are you settling? here's how to find out

The other day I was chatting with a girlfriend who got a job offer that she was less than excited about.

She's in a season of transition, so she felt like this was the safe thing to do. I could tell by her thoughts that she was settling. 

It made me think about all the times I used to settle. When I was stuck and didn't know my next career move, these thoughts were repeated in my mind daily.

"I can make this work."

"Maybe this is the best I can do."

"My job isn't so bad."

"I'm being ungrateful."

"I just have to take whatever I can get."

"I'm just going to wait it out and see."

These thoughts kept me stuck for two more years while I "figured things out."

It might temporarily create relief, but eventually, that little voice telling you this isn't it will return.

Why do we settle?

We settle out of fear.

Fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, or even fear of rejection. Settling can feel like the safest choice, but the safest is often the quickest way to feeling stuck and not to mention resentment.

How to stop settling
✨ Acknowledge what fears are holding you back: Once you bring awareness to what you are afraid of, you gain the authority to change it.

✨Give yourself permission to go after what you want to experience in your career or life: practice feeling COURAGE to go after what you want and embracing failure and mistakes along the way.

✨Be willing to challenge the status quo and stop making excuses for yourself and others: It's very easy to fall into a herd mentality - following what we think we're "supposed" to do. Instead, challenge what you've been taught, and a whole world of possibility opens up.

✨Surround yourself with people who have already accomplished the goals you thought were out of reach for you. If your current circle doesn't support you in going after your dreams, it's time to upgrade your squad.

It starts with declaring you can have a better career or life and then taking the small steps required to make it your reality.

Make 2023 the year you stop settling and start living.

And I can help! Let's book a 30-minute mini-session. You'll be amazed at what you can accomplish when you are laser-focused on creating a solution.